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- Margie's parents, Sparky and Ruth married in LA. He was working for Edison Electric in Southern California when he lost his leg in a motorcycle accident. They bought a farm in Missouri with his parents. They sold the farm and left for California, staying in Oklahoma with Sparky's half sister long enough for Margie to be born. Sparky opened a shoe repair shop in South Pasadena and was there for 10 years before going to work for IBM.
Margie worked for the State of California for 8 months, then went to work at McClellan Air Force Base for 2 years. Then for a private firm, Farrall Mobile Bearings for 1 year. She and Roy met at the State of California Division of Highways. Their first date was in February, they had talked about marriage. One day Roy came into work and said,"I have the suit I'm getting married in." She wasn't sure whether to believe him or not.
Hi Marilyn:
I thought I'd sent you this one also, but checked my sent email, and hadn't!
This was my message to those I sent it to:
My grandmother Chatterton was a suffragette, the spelling may be incorrect, but the action was something she was proud of. Fortunate for her, she lived in California at the time, and didn't suffer the same indignities as the ladies portrayed here (to my knowledge).
Those of us lucky enough to know here, knew her as a spunky, independant lady. One of the first in Southern California to have a car. She used it to travel around, and fit ladies for their corsets! LOL!
I had no idea they were treated so badly
And, this is the same grandmother that was sent on the orphan train!
Margie
-----Original Message----- From: Margie Notlisted To: marlparker Sent: Sat, Jul 14, 2012 3:46 pm Subject: Re: Concerned about you
Sorry, don't call house phone, think will have it shut down - no point in paying for it when not there - am staying at Cheryl's, and my cell is 916 220-9357. Usually have it with me.
Yes, much to my dismay, it's true. Was in Reno for quilt show with Anita, did one of my infrequent breast checks, and found a lump. This was NOT in my 'game-plan'! :LOL!
Anyway, went for mammogram on thursday a week ago, on the paper you fill out, asked if any lumps. Yes. So technician told me they can't do the mamogram without being checked by a dr. first! So, went upstairs to a dr. She and I had a pleasant visit, then got down to business, and she also found the lump. told her I'd hoped it was a figment of my imagination! She sent me a note, for mamogram, and ultrasound. The earliest appt was Monday - at 10:30 = after mamogram was checked they said, ok, you DO need an ultrasound, and whn they did that at 11:30, technician said ' it doesn't look good, we'll do a biopsy' So they did that at 2:45, and was told it lookd to be cancer, but they'd call me thursday with biopsy results, which were positive. I'm feeling fine, still a little sore from the biopsy, but basically really good.
I'd already asked, and yes, surgery will most likely be happening - followed by chemo, and radiation. Will know more after appt with surgeon, which is Wednesday, the 19th.
I have friends who've had similar and more drastic surgries, and one recommended a book, Dr. Susan Love's Breast Book, which I ordered today on Amazon. Intersting, when 'pasted' that, changed my font! OH well, still legible, but my e key sticks, so if some e's are missing you will know why! I see one at interesting above, Try to catch it as typing, but don't always notice, then sometimes just forget it, and let Y'all figure it out! Oops, not nice|!
Anyway, my plan is survival - tho at 81 that won't be forever anyway! Grandma (dad's mom) lived to 105, and dad to 93, so I INTEND to make it closer to them.. My mom, poor gal, was only 65! Her mom and dad were both 85-86. So, long lived genes are in the tree, just hope on my 'limb'!
Love you,
Margie
From: Margie Notlisted
To: marlparker
Subject: Re: Concerned about you
Date: Sun, Jul 15, 2012 5:15 pm
Thank you. I'm doing fine - just 'waiting'. No, nothing anyone can really do - it's up to the dr's. And,of course, all of your prayers, and my positive attitude! And, as I said before, have had an extremely healthy life - and am grateful.
Sandy isn't happy that she's not closer - but told her how grateful I am for them, and the wonderful trips in which they've included me. I've seen things I'd not have seen, had thy not moved to NC. DC, Williamsburg, the PA civil war cemetary, Hilton Head Island, Georgia, Myrtle beach, Coco Beach, Orlando, Epcot center, and on and on!
Anyway, she's making me a quilt to wrap up in, and get well. I'm blessed with wonderful daughters.
I will keep you posted.,
Love,
Margie
From: Cheryl
To: Anita Hay ; Russell Cupp ; Peggy Peterson ; Carol Vachuska ; janet kelsey ; Marilyn Parker ; the.cool.frost ; Marta Mendez-Cupp
Cc: sandra burk
Subject: My mother
Date: Thu, Jul 19, 2012 10:06 am
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Dearest family,
Mom saw the surgeon for a consultation yesterday. She is feeling better after her appt with the surgeon. I was taking notes during her appointment, so this is my perspective of what was said during the appointment:
Her cancer is 3.8cm in diameter (about 1-1/2 inches), and the doc called it "roly poly", it's not attached to anything, which is good. She said it's a grade 3, which is the highest grade cancer (not to be confused with the staging of the cancer.. it is NOT the highest stage), it is however, invasive and aggressive. It has ductal and lobular features and no hormone receptors. The fact that it has no hormone receptors isn't good because if it does have those receptors, it means you can treat it with hormones (like kryptonite to the cancer). It's what's called "HER 2 negative". At one point, the doc said that it's a triple negative, which is a little harder to treat.
That was pretty much the end of the bad news.. The doctor seemed very positive, she said she sees a lot of breast cancers and that it's very treatable. She said she would not talk about chemotherapy, that after the surgery, and they have done the pathology report on the cancer, the oncologist will make a recommendation on further treatment.. that they may even recommend no chemotherapy, depending on the pathology report. The surgeon said that it doesn't matter which surgery you have.. the chemotherapy recommendation would not change. She also said that there are two options for the surgery.. breast conservation therapy (BCT), which is lumpectomy plus radiation or a mastectomy, with either no radiation or with radiation.. If you have the mastectomy, the recovery would be more intense (it's a major surgery and she would have drains for 2 weeks afterwards).. and there really is no benefit to it.. the likelihood of reoccurance with the BCT is 14%, with mastectomy, it's 10%. With the lumpectomy, if there is a reoccurance, they would go in and do the mastectomy.. Radiation is done at Roseville or Rancho Cordova Kaiser.. it lasts about 15 minutes each time.. but she would need it 5 days a week for 5-6 weeks. Mom asked if she would be able to drive herself and the doctor said yes.. that she will be tired with it. and might feel like a sunburn.
Mom opted with the lumpectomy.. it will probably be done within the next two weeks.. it's an outpatient surgery. Mom is feeling very optimistic.. and part of it is that she has a little more information..
If I've confused you.. let me know and I'll try to clarify with what I know. I'll try to keep you up to date as we learn more.
Love you,
Cheryl
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1931 - 2013 (82 years)
